Part Three:

Reverend Mr. William Aiken Starrett, Helen’s husband.

William Starrett probably never should’ve been a pastor. He was a gifted (although untrained) architect, an intellectual, and a Shakespearian scholar. When Helen’s father died, the entire 20-acre plot in North Lawrence transferred to the Starretts. William had already designed and built their massive 14-room stone home, and it was a work of art. Constructed from locally quarried stone with techniques he had learned from his master stonemason father, William oversaw every detail, including the full basement, copper guttering, slate roof, and large picture windows. The Starrett’s parlor became a gathering place for the growing family, and a meeting place for the founders of the University of Kansas, Temperance activities, and leaders in the growing universal suffrage movement. Many famous people crossed the threshold of the house in Lawrence in its early years.

The Starrett’s home in North Lawrence, Kansas. Sadly, the home is no longer standing.

During this time, Helen was busy as a pastor’s wife and a mother of a growing family. Her brood would eventually include seven children: five boys and two girls, who would all live to adulthood—a rare thing in those days. In an interview later in her life, she said that those early years in Kansas were rough and busy times. There was a lot of work to be done, lots of mouths to feed, many barefoot children, and not a lot of money. She remarked that they were always busy, but they were happy.

Charles Philip Ingalls, Caroline’s husband

Like William, Charles Ingalls also built his family’s Kansas home. The Ingalls’ one-room log cabin was small and simple, and would one day be known all over the world as the Little House on the Prairie. With Caroline’s help, he cut, shaped, and placed the logs himself. He left holes for the windows and a door, and promised Caroline that one day soon, he would build a proper door and install glass windows. However, since the snug little cabin had been built within Osage lands—the Ingallses did not own their property. Whether they were paying annuities to the Osage or simply squatting on the land isn’t definitively known. Regardless, they never held title to the land in Kansas.

A replica of the Ingalls’ home near Independence, Kansas.

In 1869, as Charles built the Little House, William and Helen were going through a change of beliefs. William resigned from the Presbyterian Church and began to study law. The outgoing and confident Helen, with her rich and radiating personality, confidently took the reins as the family breadwinner. The burden of domestic duties was lightened significantly by the endless stream of family members taking up temporary residence in the house, but with William preparing for a new career, some form of income income was necessary. She wrote for various publications as a correspondent, and had become relatively well known for her lectures on topics for women. Helen was unique. Unlike other women of her day and age, she was never bound by the conventions of her time.
From their Temperance work, the Starretts had made become friendly with the emerging voices of the Suffrage movement. Helen and Susan B Anthony had become friends, and Miss Anthony had invited her to speak at the National Suffrage Convention in Washington DC. As a delegate from the state of Kansas, Helen gave Kansas women a voice on the national stage. Upon her return to Lawrence, she opened a retail shop where she sold pianos, sheet music, sewing machines, and textiles. She advertised aggressively in the local papers. Her lectures continued to gain popularity, and she began to travel. While away from home, she wrote long and descriptive letters home. Interestingly enough, she continued having babies during this time, though nothing is ever mentioned in her writing.

Caroline Sepia
Caroline Quiner Ingalls

Caroline’s Kansas life was much quieter and more traditional. Both women spent the majority of 1870 pregnant, and neither woman documented her physical condition or circumstances surrounding childbirth. Unlike Helen, Caroline was far more conventional and reserved. She was the only adult female at their homestead, so there was no one with whom she could share her daily household chores. Both Mary and Laura were both still too young to contribute very much to the daily chores. Her daily existence was isolated and full of hard, backbreaking work that exclusively involved the daily running of her household. In addition to overseeing her girls’ education, she took care of all the domestic duties. She cooked, cleaned, helped with the gardening and planting, and maintained the homestead in Charles’ absence.

Helen Ekin Starrett

Helen, on the other hand, had quite a bit of help. From letters and other memoirs, there was a constant stream of female relatives in the Starrett home. Helen had four sisters who often visited, her mother was in residence at least part of the time, and William’s sister lived with them briefly. From Helen’s recollections of Susan B Anthony, even the famous suffragist rolled up her sleeves and helped with the household chores while she stayed with the family. Helen wrote that when Miss Anthony was in residence, the household duties were lightened rather than increased by a houseguest. Everyone in the household contributed to the upkeep and income, thus creating a somewhat lighter physical load for Helen.
Sometime in early 1871, the Ingalls family decided to leave their little house and return to Wisconsin. The family’s reasons for relocation are debatable, but it’s most likely that their financial situation left them no choice. The family who had purchased their Wisconsin property was no longer able to continue making their payments, so it made sense to return. Regardless, Caroline was tasked with re-packing their entire lives back into their covered wagon, and abandoning the place she called home. Over the next ten years, the Ingalls family relocated several more times before Caroline finally made her husband promise to stay put, if for no other reason than for the sake of the girls’ education.

The Ingalls family were not alone when they left Kansas. Other families had chosen to leave as well, so the family probably did not make the long and slow journey alone. (Not the Ingalls family. I found this image online with several different source explanations.)

Kansas wasn’t the last home for Helen either. Both women had many more miles to travel and many more challenges to experience before they could rest.
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